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Birthparent Adoption Questions-Adoption Plan
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What Questions You Might Have

At ANA Adoptions, we are always available to answer any of your questions, twenty-four hours a day, seven days a week.  Choosing adoption may be one of the hardest, most loving decisions you will ever make and you can be sure that you will never feel pressured by us. We want you to do what is right for you and your child, whether that be an adoption plan or a decision to parent yourself. Contemplating what you do about your pregnancy may leave you with many questions.

Following are some of those most often asked. Just click on the  ?  for the drop-down answer.

If I decide to make an adoption plan, can I choose the couple who will raise my child?

Yes, you will be able to review the profiles of approved couples. Once you have selected a couple, we will arrange a call (and we will be on that call with you) so that you can ask the couple any questions you might have.  If, for some reason, you are not comfortable with them after the call, you can ask to speak with another couple. The choice is yours and we want you to be 100% comfortable.

Can I meet the couple before my baby is born?

Absolutely.  They will meet you in your hometown prior to your delivery date so you can get to know each other and be sure of your decision.  The couple will also provide you with their cell phone number so you can call or text them, if you wish, on an ongoing basis. Your heart and the heart of the adoptive parents should connect even before the baby is born.  Getting to know each other and the dreams you each have for this child’s future helps to make the transition upon baby’s birth more natural for you.   

People say that making an adoption plan is selfish. Am I being selfish?

Making an adoption plan is the ultimate courageous and unselfish act a woman can make. It is also one of the most difficult decisions you may make in your life. You are putting what is best for your child ahead of your own feelings and it takes a very special person to do that.  Every child deserves a loving and stable environment. By making your adoption plan, you can help ensure that your child has every opportunity that you dream of for them. Plus you are helping a couple, who otherwise may not be able, to build their family and realize their dreams of parenthood. Making an adoption plan is not selfish but rather the ultimate act of love.

Family and friends say that they will help me with my child. Could this be an alternate to making an adoption plan?

Yes, of course this is one option when faced with an unexpected pregnancy. Raising a child is a life-long responsibility and requires great sacrifice on the part of a parent. Are you ready for that responsibility at this point in your life? Your family and friends mean well but in the end you are the person responsible for ensuring the health and well-being for your child. Can they guarantee to be there every time you need help? Sometimes they can, at other times maybe not. You need to make that life-long decision that is best for your child.

Can the couple be with me at the time of the baby’s birth and take my baby home directly upon discharge?

Yes, many mothers ask for the adoptive mom to be her coach in the delivery room to share the birth experience of “their” child. Of course, this again is your choice! You will also be able to spend as much time as you want with your baby before discharge, including the opportunity to take pictures. Almost always, when you are released from the hospital, the baby is discharged directly to his or her new family.  Most families meet with the Birthmother again after the hospital discharge so additional pictures and goodbyes can be shared in a warm atmosphere.  

What is an open adoption?

In an open adoption, the birthmother chooses the adoptive family and meets them prior to delivery. You know their names, where they are from and what they do. Birthparents and Adoptive Couples decide what communications to continue after placement.   Your plan will be what you and the adoptive family wants it to be. Many women choose ongoing contact including pictures and written updates while others may choose very limited or no contact.  The decision is yours and will be honored.

Can you help me with an adoption plan if I am very close to delivery or have already given birth?

We are here 24 hours a day, seven days a week. We can help you choose the right adoptive family for your child, whether months before delivery or even if you are already in the hospital and have given birth.  Profiles are mailed overnight but can also be viewed on-line.  When you are certain of your choice and decision, the family will be at your bedside within hours. 

What is my next step?

We are here to help you in taking your next steps. If you want to find out more about adoption or if you are ready to make an adoption plan, contact us at 215-534-3527 or email us. You can review our waiting families on-line and we can also send you a full Adoption Profile Book of those adoptive families so you can get to know them better.